Updated: May 26, 2020
"If you want to destroy something then destroy your negative thinking."
Written in 2014 by Lopamudra N., Age 15 --- India
Being a teenager is filled with ups, downs, and everything in between. From school crushes to your first job, many memorable moments that come with being a teenager. At times, being a teenager can be emotionally taxing. You may feel like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders. Today, we’re reminding you that you’re not alone in your experiences.
What is self-love?
The dictionary defines self-love as a regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. Self-love is important to your overall health and happiness.
It helps you choose who you hang out with and call your friends, what you eat, how you sleep, and even how you dress. It’s having compassion for who you are without having to ask yourself the question “What’s wrong wrong with me?” because you’re not like such-and-such or because you don’t look like this person or think like that person.
Self-love is simply caring of and taking care of yourself.
There was a time in my life when I had no idea what self-love meant.
It didn’t exist to me.
Like, at all.......
I was a teenager, and I didn’t really care about how I looked or how I was looked at. School wasn’t important to me so I didn’t go as much, I’d would rather hang out all day and do whatever I wanted without anyone telling me what to do. I didn’t think about care about the consequences then because I felt I wasn’t important to anybody anyway so why not. I didn’t regard my well-being at all, and the decisions I made as a result was proof of that. I’m surprised I graduated high school because I was either not there physically or not there mentally.
I had a lot of these negative thoughts as a teenager and unfortunately, they led to many negative behaviors and decisions on my part. Now, I didn’t learn self-love until I was a lot older so I started late. I wish I could have gotten this lesson when I was a teenager.
Actually, even earlier than that!
You’ve probably had some negative thoughts about yourself too.
Maybe telling yourself that you’re a loser or a failure...
....that you can never do anything right.
It’s okay to have feelings, it’s natural. What’s not okay is to have those negative feelings and staying in that moment, convincing yourself that it’s true. The longer you stay in those moments, the harder it will be to get out of it. And, if you can’t get out of it then you’ve truly convinced yourself that it’s true. Your subconscious mind has accepted it and your behavior follows. At that point you no longer have that regard for your well-being, and you stop taking care of yourself.
How can self-love keep you from making the wrong decisions?
How can self-love keep you from choosing the wrong friends?
How can self-love help you to be your best self?
Everything you need to succeed is already in you. My role as a teen life coach is to help you see it and bring it out!